异性男女做不到“只是朋友”
<p><span word="Can">Can</span><span word="and">and</span> <span word="women">women</span> <span word="ever">ever</span> <span word="be">be</span> “<span word="just">just</span> <span word="friends">friends</span>”? <span word="Few">Few</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="questions">questions</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="provoked">provoked</span> <span word="debates">debates</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="intense">intense</span>, <span word="family">family</span> <span word="dinners">dinners</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="awkward">awkward</span>, <span word="literature">literature</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="lurid">lurid</span>, <span word="or">or</span> <span word="movies">movies</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="memorable">memorable</span>. <span word="Still">Still</span>, <span word="the">the</span> <span word="question">question</span> <span word="remains">remains</span> <span word="unanswered">unanswered</span>. <span word="Daily">Daily</span> <span word="experience">experience</span> <span word="suggests">suggests</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="non">non</span>-<span word="romantic">romantic</span> <span word="friendships">friendships</span> <span word="between">between</span> <span word="males">males</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="females">females</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="only">only</span> <span word="possible">possible</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="common">common</span>—<span word="men">men</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="women">women</span> <span word="live">live</span>, <span word="work">work</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="play">play</span> <span word="side">side</span>-<span word="by">by</span>-<span word="side">side</span>.</p><p>异性恋的男女可以做到“只是朋友”吗？没有别的问题可以像这个问题一样引出热烈的讨论了：像家宴一样尴尬，像文学一样动人，像电影一样难忘。而这个问题依然没有得到解答。日常经验表明，男女之间不带浪漫色彩的纯友谊关系不仅可能，而且十分普遍——男女可以一起生活、工作、并肩玩乐。</p><p><span word="However">However</span>, <span word="the">the</span> <span word="possibility">possibility</span> <span word="remains">remains</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="apparently">apparently</span> <span word="platonic">platonic</span> <span word="coexistence">coexistence</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="merely">merely</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="fa">fa</span>ç<span word="ade">ade</span>. <span word="New">New</span> <span word="research">research</span> <span word="suggests">suggests</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="there">there</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="some">some</span> <span word="truth">truth</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="possibility">possibility</span>—<span word="that">that</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="we">we</span>’<span word="re">re</span> <span word="capable">capable</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="being">being</span> “<span word="just">just</span> <span word="friends">friends</span>” <span word="with">with</span> <span word="members">members</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="opposite">opposite</span> <span word="sex">sex</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="opportunity">opportunity</span> (<span word="or">or</span> <span word="perceived">perceived</span> <span word="opportunity">opportunity</span>) <span word="for">for</span> “<span word="romance">romance</span>” <span word="is">is</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="lurking">lurking</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="around">around</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="corner">corner</span>, <span word="waiting">waiting</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="pounce">pounce</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="most">most</span> <span word="inopportune">inopportune</span> <span word="moment">moment</span>.</p><p>然而，这种柏拉图式的共处可能只是表面现象。新的研究显示，虽然这种可能性也许是有事实依据的：我们可能认为自己有能力和异性“只做朋友”，然而“浪漫”的机会（或者说感觉到的机会）通常就藏在某个角落，等待一个最不凑巧的时刻迸发。</p>
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