7种不伤害人的拒绝方式
<p><span word="How">How</span> <span word="many">many</span> <span word="ways">ways</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="there">there</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span> "<span word="No">No</span>" <span word="without">without</span> <span word="offending">offending</span> <span word="anyone">anyone</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="feeling">feeling</span>? <span word="Well">Well</span>, <span word="there">there</span> <span word="is">is</span> "<span word="No">No</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="can">can</span>'<span word="t">t</span>", "<span word="No">No</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="don">don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="time">time</span>" <span word="and">and</span> "<span word="No">No</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="don">don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span>". <span word="But">But</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="problem">problem</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="many">many</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="us">us</span> <span word="try">try</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="avoid">avoid</span> <span word="situations">situations</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="require">require</span> <span word="us">us</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span> "<span word="No">No</span>" <span word="to">to</span> <span word="people">people</span>. <span word="In">In</span> <span word="almost">almost</span> <span word="every">every</span> <span word="culture">culture</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="little">little</span> <span word="word">word</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="associated">associated</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="rejection">rejection</span>, <span word="failure">failure</span>, <span word="egoism">egoism</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="lack">lack</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="tact">tact</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="empathy">empathy</span> <span word="towards">towards</span> <span word="others">others</span>.</p><p>有多少种方法在拒绝时而不得罪人呢？ "不行，我没法做。" "不行，我没空。" "不行，我不想做。" 但是问题在于，我们很多人都想避免对别人说"不"。 几乎在每种文化中，"不"这个字都和拒绝、失败、利己主义、应变能力不足、缺少同情心联系起来。</p><p><span word="I">I</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="recall">recall</span> <span word="how">how</span> <span word="many">many</span> <span word="times">times</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="eaten">eaten</span> <span word="burnt">burnt</span>, <span word="undercooked">undercooked</span>, <span word="bland">bland</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="poorly">poorly</span> <span word="tasting">tasting</span> <span word="dishes">dishes</span> <span word="simply">simply</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="feelings">feelings</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="who">who</span> <span word="had">had</span> <span word="cooked">cooked</span> <span word="them">them</span>. <span word="Or">Or</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="times">times</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="bought">bought</span> <span word="something">something</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="need">need</span>, <span word="because">because</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="felt">felt</span> <span word="guilty">guilty</span> <span word="leaving">leaving</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="shop">shop</span> <span word="empty">empty</span>-<span word="handed">handed</span> <span word="after">after</span> <span word="spending">spending</span> 20 <span word="minutes">minutes</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="shop">shop</span> <span word="assistant">assistant</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="time">time</span>.</p><p>我记不起来有多少次，我因为不想伤害做饭的人的感情而吃掉糊了的、夹生的、平淡无味的或味道很差的食物。 我也记不起来有多少次我买了不需要的东西，只是因为我觉得花了导购员20分钟的时间两手空空离开会有一种负罪感。</p><p><span word="How">How</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="say">say</span> "<span word="No">No</span>" <span word="without">without</span> <span word="offending">offending</span> <span word="anyone">anyone</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="feeling">feeling</span> <span word="guilty">guilty</span> <span word="afterwards">afterwards</span>? <span word="There">There</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="great">great</span> <span word="lesson">lesson</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="learned">learned</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="such">such</span> <span word="approach">approach</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="communication">communication</span>.</p>
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