每个人都有自己的烦恼
<p><span word="Have">Have</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="ever">ever</span> <span word="had">had</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="feeling">feeling</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="everyone">everyone</span> <span word="else">else</span> <span word="seems">seems</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="sorted">sorted</span>, <span word="so">so</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="ease">ease</span>? <span word="You">You</span> <span word="look">look</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="see">see</span> <span word="friends">friends</span> <span word="chatting">chatting</span> <span word="over">over</span> <span word="lunch">lunch</span>, <span word="people">people</span> <span word="laughing">laughing</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="mobiles">mobiles</span>, <span word="others">others</span> <span word="escaping">escaping</span> <span word="contentedly">contentedly</span> <span word="through">through</span> <span word="novels">novels</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="newspapers">newspapers</span>. <span word="According">According</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="Alexander">Alexander</span> <span word="Jordan">Jordan</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="colleagues">colleagues</span>, <span word="most">most</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="us">us</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="such">such</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="tendency">tendency</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="underestimate">underestimate</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="people">people</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="experience">experience</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="negative">negative</span> <span word="emotion">emotion</span>. <span word="In">In</span> <span word="turn">turn</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="researchers">researchers</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="skewed">skewed</span> <span word="perception">perception</span> <span word="perpetuates">perpetuates</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="collective">collective</span> <span word="delusion">delusion</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="which">which</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="strive">strive</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="present">present</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="unrealistically">unrealistically</span> <span word="happy">happy</span> <span word="front">front</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="that">that</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="norm">norm</span>.</p><p>有没有觉得别人总是泰然自若？环顾四周，人们在午餐时惬意闲谈，笑语盈盈地通电话，或者醉心于书本里的世界。然而亚历山大?乔丹和他的同事们却认为，大部分人都倾向于低估他人的负面情绪体验，久而久之这种错觉让我们努力在人前摆出一种快乐的假象，并认为这样很正常。</p><p><span word="Jordan">Jordan</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="team">team</span> <span word="began">began</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="investigation">investigation</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="asking">asking</span> 63 <span word="undergrads">undergrads</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="describe">describe</span> <span word="recent">recent</span> <span word="negative">negative</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="positive">positive</span> <span word="emotional">emotional</span> <span word="experiences">experiences</span> <span word="they">they</span>'<span word="d">d</span> <span word="had">had</span>. <span word="As">As</span> <span word="expected">expected</span>, <span word="the">the</span> <span word="negative">negative</span> <span word="examples">examples</span> (<span word="eg">eg</span> <span word="had">had</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="argument">argument</span>; <span word="was">was</span> <span word="rejected">rejected</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="boy">boy</span>/<span word="girl">girl</span>)， <span word="more">more</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="positive">positive</span> <span word="examples">examples</span> (<span word="eg">eg</span> <span word="attended">attended</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="fun">fun</span> <span word="party">party</span>; <span word="had">had</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="great">great</span> <span word="meal">meal</span>)， <span word="tended">tended</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="occur">occur</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="private">private</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="provoke">provoke</span> <span word="emotions">emotions</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="students">students</span> <span word="had">had</span> <span word="attempted">attempted</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="suppress">suppress</span>.</p><p>乔丹的心理小组邀请了63位大学生，请他们描述近来经历的正面和负面的情绪体验。如研究者所料，负面的例子(如争吵，求爱被拒)比正面的例子(如参加一个有趣的聚会，享用了一顿大餐)多，而且一般负面的东西多涉及隐私，会激发学生试图压抑的情绪。</p>
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