如果一直对孩子说“Yes”效果会怎样?
<p><span word="Like">Like</span> <span word="most">most</span> <span word="children">children</span>, <span word="my">my</span> <span word="own">own</span> <span word="brood">brood</span> <span word="complains">complains</span> <span word="constantly">constantly</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="style">style</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="parenting">parenting</span>. "<span word="You">You</span>’<span word="re">re</span> <span word="always">always</span> <span word="saying">saying</span> '<span word="No">No</span>'," <span word="they">they</span> <span word="complain">complain</span>, <span word="as">as</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="tell">tell</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="can">can</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="yet">yet</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="mayonnaise">mayonnaise</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="dinner">dinner</span>.</p><p>像大多数孩子们一样，我自己的孩子也一直抱怨我对他们的养育方式。晚饭时当我告诉他们不能再吃蛋黄酱的时侯，他们抱怨说"你总是说'不'。"</p><p>"<span word="It">It</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="bad">bad</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="you">you</span>," <span word="I">I</span> <span word="say">say</span>. "<span word="So">So</span>, <span word="no">no</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="can">can</span>’<span word="t">t</span>."</p><p>我说:"再吃对你们的健康不好，不，你们不能再吃了。"</p><p>"<span word="You">You</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="no">no</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="everything">everything</span>,"<span word="says">says</span> <span word="Leonard">Leonard</span>, <span word="aged">aged</span> <span word="eight">eight</span>.</p><p>八岁的<span word="Leonard">Leonard</span>说："你对任何事情都说不。"</p><p><span word="He">He</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="younger">younger</span> <span word="siblings">siblings</span> — <span word="Jerry">Jerry</span>, <span word="six">six</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="Ottoline">Ottoline</span>, <span word="three">three</span> — <span word="then">then</span> <span word="list">list</span> <span word="everything">everything</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="said">said</span> ‘<span word="No">No</span>’ <span word="to">to</span> <span word="since">since</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="got">got</span> <span word="home">home</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="school">school</span>. <span word="Sweets">Sweets</span>, <span word="playing">playing</span> <span word="outside">outside</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="uniform">uniform</span> <span word="on">on</span>, <span word="biscuits">biscuits</span>, <span word="getting">getting</span> <span word="stuff">stuff</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="drawer">drawer</span>, <span word="painting">painting</span> …</p><p>他和弟弟妹妹们——6岁的<span word="Jerry">Jerry</span>和3岁的<span word="Ottoline">Ottoline</span>列了一张清单，上面写着他们从学校回家后我说的所有的"不"。糖果、在外面穿着校服玩、饼干、从抽屉里拿东西、画画……</p><p><span word="I">I</span>’<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="always">always</span> <span word="considered">considered</span> <span word="myself">myself</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="pretty">pretty</span> <span word="easy">easy</span>-<span word="going">going</span> <span word="parent">parent</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="yet">yet</span> <span word="here">here</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="telling">telling</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="I">I</span>’<span word="m">m</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="nay">nay</span>-<span word="saying">saying</span> <span word="harridan">harridan</span>.</p><p>我一直认为我是一个脾气很好的妈妈，但是他们竟然说我是一个总说"不"的老巫婆。</p><p><span word="According">According</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="currently">currently</span> <span word="fashionable">fashionable</span> <span word="idea">idea</span> <span word="of">of</span> ‘<span word="free">free</span> <span word="parenting">parenting</span>’, <span word="though">though</span>, <span word="what">what</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="should">should</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="saying">saying</span> <span word="is">is</span> ‘<span word="Yes">Yes</span>’.</p>
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