2017届高考英语阅读素材：如何在群体中表现得更加活跃
<p> 如何在群体中表现得更加活跃</p><p> <span word="Sometimes">Sometimes</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="make">make</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="good">good</span> <span word="impression">impression</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="everyone">everyone</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="seem">seem</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="interested">interested</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="rest">rest</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="group">group</span>. <span word="Especially">Especially</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="met">met</span> <span word="some">some</span> <span word="new">new</span> <span word="people">people</span>, <span word="it">it</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="usually">usually</span> <span word="better">better</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="lean">lean</span> <span word="towards">towards</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="outgoing">outgoing</span> <span word="end">end</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="scale">scale</span>. <span word="Getting">Getting</span> <span word="that">that</span> "<span word="quiet">quiet</span>" <span word="label">label</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="works">works</span> <span word="against">against</span> <span word="those">those</span> <span word="plans">plans</span>. <span word="Here">Here</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="some">some</span> <span word="simple">simple</span> <span word="strategies">strategies</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="came">came</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="help">help</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="less">less</span> <span word="quiet">quiet</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="come">come</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span>: 有时你想给他人留下好印象，或者想要表现你对团体中其他成员的兴趣，尤其当你刚刚认识一些人时，通常是表现得外向点更好。被贴上“沉闷”的标签常常有害无益。以下是我自己想出来的一些简单的对策，它们帮助我不再沉默寡言，并且能够有话可说。 <span word="Tell">Tell</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="every">every</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="often">often</span> 提醒自己必须不时说些什么 <span word="One">One</span> <span word="thing">thing</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="works">works</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="make">make</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="explicit">explicit</span> <span word="rule">rule</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="head">head</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="least">least</span> <span word="every">every</span> <span word="few">few</span> <span word="minutes">minutes</span>, <span word="preferably">preferably</span> <span word="more">more</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="not">not</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="perceive">perceive</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="quiet">quiet</span>. <span word="It">It</span> <span word="seems">seems</span> <span word="basic">basic</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="spell">spell</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="myself">myself</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="this">this</span>, <span word="it">it</span> <span word="forces">forces</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="continually">continually</span> <span word="try">try</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="add">add</span> <span word="new">new</span> <span word="points">points</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="discussion">discussion</span>. <span word="Before">Before</span> <span word="realizing">realizing</span> <span word="this">this</span>, <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="d">d</span> <span word="hang">hang</span> <span word="back">back</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="listen">listen</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="everyone">everyone</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="take">take</span> <span word="everything">everything</span> <span word="in">in</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="sometimes">sometimes</span> <span word="go">go</span> <span word="ten">ten</span> <span word="minutes">minutes</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="without">without</span> <span word="uttering">uttering</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="word">word</span>. <span word="Or">Or</span> <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="d">d</span> <span word="get">get</span> <span word="lost">lost</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="head">head</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="get">get</span> <span word="distracted">distracted</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="own">own</span> <span word="thoughts">thoughts</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="daydreams">daydreams</span>. <span word="You">You</span> <span word="can">can</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="that">that</span>. <span word="You">You</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="talk">talk</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="feels">feels</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="do">do</span>. <span word="Consciously">Consciously</span> <span word="knowing">knowing</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="helps">helps</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="it">it</span>. 对我挺有效的一条是，在脑子里树立一个明晰的条例，规定我必须至少每隔几分钟说几句话，或者更多。如果没做到，我明白人们就会觉得我沉闷。这看起来很初级，但当我亲口对自己这样说，就能迫使我自己不断地尝试为当前的讨论加点料。在认识到这一点之前，我畏缩不前，倾听每个人的高谈阔论，接纳他们所说的一切，有时连续十分钟（甚至更久）一言不发。或者，我在自己的脑海里迷了路，被我自己的思绪和浮想搅得心神不宁。你不能那样。你要更频繁地开口，而不是在思绪翩翩中自我感觉良好。有意识地明确这一点能帮助你开口。 <span word="When">When</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="new">new</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="group">group</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="who">who</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="each">each</span> <span word="other">other</span>, <span word="this">this</span> <span word="rule">rule</span> <span word="especially">especially</span> <span word="applies">applies</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="onus">onus</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="get">get</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span> <span word="into">into</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="conversation">conversation</span>. <span word="They">They</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="comfortable">comfortable</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="each">each</span> <span word="other">other</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="benignly">benignly</span> <span word="neglect">neglect</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="actively">actively</span> <span word="include">include</span> <span word="you">you</span>. 当你走近彼此都已相识的一群人时，这条规律尤其适用。因为参与谈话的义务通常在你。他们可能已然相处融洽，互感亲切而忘记了对方的存在，但同时却也忽视了你。 <span word="Don">Don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="filter">filter</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="much">much</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="trying">trying</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span> 构思说话内容时，不要过度地自我审查 <span word="Often">Often</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="can">can</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="anything">anything</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span>, <span word="there">there</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="actually">actually</span> <span word="lots">lots</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="potential">potential</span> <span word="conversation">conversation</span> <span word="topics">topics</span> <span word="passing">passing</span> <span word="through">through</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="mind">mind</span>. <span word="But">But</span> <span word="instead">instead</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="going">going</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="them">them</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="nix">nix</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="reason">reason</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="another">another</span>; "<span word="No">No</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="can">can</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="that">that</span>. <span word="It">It</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="boring">boring</span>.", "<span word="No">No</span>, <span word="that">that</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="blue">blue</span>.", "<span word="Oh">Oh</span>, <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="m">m</span> <span word="kind">kind</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="nervous">nervous</span> <span word="saying">saying</span> <span word="that">that</span>, <span word="though">though</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="couldn">couldn</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="tell">tell</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="why">why</span>." <span word="Instead">Instead</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="censoring">censoring</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="much">much</span>, <span word="just">just</span> <span word="spit">spit</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="some">some</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="ideas">ideas</span> <span word="passing">passing</span> <span word="through">through</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="mind">mind</span>. 通常情况下，当我觉得我实在想不出有什么可说，其实还是有很多潜在的话题从我脑海中穿过。但是我并未开口，我出于这样或那样的原因把它们扼杀了。“不，我不能说这个。它太无聊了。”“不行，那太耸人听闻。”，“哦，说这个我会有点紧张，不知道是为什么。”这样的自我审查就太苛刻了，还是把你脑子里一闪而过的想法一吐为快吧。 <span word="Don">Don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="fret">fret</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="much">much</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="saying">saying</span> <span word="generic">generic</span> <span word="things">things</span> 不必担心自己的话语平淡无奇 <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="read">read</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="lot">lot</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="advice">advice</span> <span word="telling">telling</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="bore">bore</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="cliched">cliched</span>, <span word="unoriginal">unoriginal</span> <span word="conversation">conversation</span> <span word="topics">topics</span>. <span word="This">This</span> <span word="has">has</span> <span word="sunk">sunk</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="much">much</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="sometimes">sometimes</span> <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="ll">ll</span> <span word="find">find</span> <span word="myself">myself</span> <span word="paralyzed">paralyzed</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="social">social</span> <span word="situations">situations</span>. <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="ll">ll</span> <span word="meet">meet</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="new">new</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="anything">anything</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="it">it</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="huge">huge</span> <span word="faux">faux</span> <span word="pas">pas</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="ask">ask</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="uninspired">uninspired</span>, <span word="like">like</span> <span word="where">where</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="work">work</span>. 我曾经读过很多建议，它们告诉我，不要拿味如鸡肋，陈词滥调的话题来让人觉得无聊。这个说法渗入我内心之深，以至于有时我发现自己在社交场合形同瘫痪。我会新认识一些人，却不打算和他们说点什么。因为我认为，如果我说了什么让他们觉得毫无触动的东西，就是巨大的失礼，例如，询问他们在哪里工作。 <span word="Just">Just</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="stuff">stuff</span> <span word="anyways">anyways</span>. <span word="Something">Something</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="better">better</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="nothing">nothing</span>. <span word="Often">Often</span>, <span word="dull">dull</span> <span word="questions">questions</span> <span word="like">like</span>, "<span word="What">What</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="fun">fun</span>?", <span word="or">or</span> "<span word="Seen">Seen</span> <span word="any">any</span> <span word="good">good</span> <span word="movies">movies</span> <span word="lately">lately</span>?" <span word="get">get</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="ball">ball</span> <span word="rolling">rolling</span>. <span word="Soon">Soon</span> <span word="enough">enough</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="talking">talking</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="interesting">interesting</span>. <span word="They">They</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="necessary">necessary</span> <span word="evil">evil</span>, <span word="a">a</span> <span word="reliable">reliable</span>, <span word="if">if</span> <span word="tiresome">tiresome</span>, <span word="fallback">fallback</span>. <span word="When">When</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="ask">ask</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="questions">questions</span> <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="heard">heard</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="answer">answer</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="million">million</span> <span word="times">times</span> <span word="before">before</span>, <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="m">m</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="always">always</span> <span word="crazy">crazy</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="it">it</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="don">don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="hold">hold</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="against">against</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="either">either</span>. <span word="Ideally">Ideally</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="avoid">avoid</span> <span word="boring">boring</span> <span word="topics">topics</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="can">can</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="anything">anything</span> <span word="else">else</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span>, <span word="then">then</span> <span word="go">go</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="opposed">opposed</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="quiet">quiet</span>. 就在一般意义上说说这件事吧。有，总是聊胜于无。通常，愚蠢的问题，如“你喜欢做什么?”，或“最近看过什么好电影?”就能引起话题。很快你们就会转而谈论一些更有趣的东西了。愚蠢的话题不好，却又缺之不可，就算很无聊，也是一种稳定可靠的后备方案。当人们问一个我已经答了一百万次的问题，我未必不觉得要发疯，但是我也不会怪罪他们。在理想的情况下，你可以避免涉及无聊的话题，但是如果你想不出什么别的话来，那就用它们吧，以免冷场。 <span word="Take">Take</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="lead">lead</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="conversation">conversation</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="it">it</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="going">going</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="way">way</span> 控制谈话的方向，如果它偏离了你的轨道 <span word="Often">Often</span> <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="ll">ll</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="quiet">quiet</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="m">m</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="discussing">discussing</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="where">where</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="zero">zero</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="add">add</span>, <span word="usually">usually</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="nothing">nothing</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="topic">topic</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="goes">goes</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="long">long</span>, <span word="then">then</span> <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="m">m</span> <span word="suddenly">suddenly</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="quiet">quiet</span> <span word="one">one</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="conversation">conversation</span> <span word="isn">isn</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="going">going</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="way">way</span>, <span word="try">try</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="take">take</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="lead">lead</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="switch">switch</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="area">area</span> <span word="where">where</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="ll">ll</span> <span word="naturally">naturally</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="talk">talk</span> <span word="about">about</span>. 经常，我保持沉默是因为同处的人们正在讨论我觉得无话可说的东西，这往往因为我对这个话题一无所知。如果这持续得太久了，我就突兀地成了沉闷的人。如果谈话没在你的轨道上，尝试引导和切换到一个领域，你自然会有更多的话要说。 <span word="More">More</span> <span word="generally">generally</span>, <span word="if">if</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="talking">talking</span> <span word="among">among</span> <span word="themselves">themselves</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="aren">aren</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="making">making</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="effort">effort</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="include">include</span> <span word="you">you</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="should">should</span> <span word="take">take</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="initiative">initiative</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="try">try</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="work">work</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="way">way</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="there">there</span>. <span word="There">There</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="no">no</span> <span word="rule">rule</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="says">says</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="politely">politely</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="wait">wait</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="directly">directly</span> <span word="address">address</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="ask">ask</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="opinion">opinion</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="something">something</span>. 更一般地，如果其他人在彼此说话，却不打算把你包括在内的时候，你应该采取主动，努力把自己放进去。并没有规定说，你必须礼貌地等待，直到有人来点你的名问你对某事的意见。 <span word="Sometimes">Sometimes</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="can">can</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="come">come</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span> 有时，你就是无话可说了 <span word="These">These</span> <span word="tips">tips</span> <span word="continue">continue</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="help">help</span> <span word="me">me</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="times">times</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="mind">mind</span> <span word="draws">draws</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="blank">blank</span>. <span word="When">When</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="can">can</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span>, <span word="it">it</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="due">due</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="shyness">shyness</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="inhibition">inhibition</span> <span word="interfering">interfering</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="ability">ability</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="freely">freely</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="reducing">reducing</span> <span word="these">these</span> <span word="feelings">feelings</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="easier">easier</span> <span word="said">said</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="done">done</span>. 这些小贴士一直在帮助我，然而有时我的大脑仍旧会一片空白。当你无话可说，它往往是由于羞涩和压抑感干扰了你自由地思考，而避免这些情感说起来容易做起来难。 <span word="The">The</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="usual">usual</span> <span word="explanation">explanation</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="honestly">honestly</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="nothing">nothing</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="contribute">contribute</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="conversation">conversation</span> (<span word="e">e</span>.<span word="g">g</span>., <span word="everyone">everyone</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="talking">talking</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="old">old</span> <span word="friends">friends</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="common">common</span>), <span word="and">and</span> <span word="it">it</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="appropriate">appropriate</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="try">try</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="suddenly">suddenly</span> <span word="change">change</span> <span word="it">it</span>. <span word="But">But</span> <span word="here">here</span> <span word="everyone">everyone</span> <span word="should">should</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="least">least</span> <span word="understand">understand</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="can">can</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="expected">expected</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="chatty">chatty</span>. <span word="Try">Try</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="though">though</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="topic">topic</span> <span word="changes">changes</span>. 其他常见的解释是：你确确实实拿不出能为谈话作出贡献的东西（例如，大家伙在谈论他们所共有的老朋友），而这时试图突然岔开话题又是不合适的。可是在这种情况下，每一个人至少都明白，不能期望你有太多话可说。所以，一旦话题变化，就试着说些什么吧。 <span word="If">If</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="come">come</span> <span word="off">off</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="quiet">quiet</span>, <span word="do">do</span> <span word="better">better</span> <span word="next">next</span> <span word="time">time</span> 如果你被人看成是沉默的人，下次做好些就行 <span word="It">It</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="unusual">unusual</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="little">little</span> <span word="tongue">tongue</span>-<span word="tied">tied</span> <span word="around">around</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="new">new</span> <span word="group">group</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="people">people</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="better">better</span> <span word="next">next</span> <span word="time">time</span>, <span word="then">then</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="forget">forget</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="first">first</span> <span word="impression">impression</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="you">you</span>. <span word="They">They</span>'<span word="ll">ll</span> <span word="realize">realize</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="aren">aren</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="snob">snob</span> <span word="after">after</span> <span word="all">all</span>, <span word="or">or</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="aren">aren</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="meek">meek</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="boring">boring</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="actually">actually</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="pretty">pretty</span> <span word="interesting">interesting</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="around">around</span>. 在一群新认识的人面前就好像被绑住了舌头，这样的事并不少见。如果你下次做得更好些，那么人们通常会忘记对你的第一印象。他们会知道你不是势利小人，也不是索然无味之辈，事实上，你真的是个很有趣的人。</p>
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