双语美文：爱情里，你选择接受还是拒绝
<p><span word="Most">Most</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="don">don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="naturally">naturally</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="reject">reject</span> <span word="love">love</span>. <span word="By">By</span> <span word="learning">learning</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="behaviors">behaviors</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="engage">engage</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="push">push</span> <span word="away">away</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="partner">partner</span>, <span word="we">we</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="really">really</span> <span word="start">start</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="change">change</span> <span word="these">these</span> <span word="behaviors">behaviors</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="shift">shift</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="dynamics">dynamics</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span>.</p><p>多数人并不认为自己在拒绝爱。要了解我们哪些行为把我们的伴侣推开了，我们才能真正改变这些行为，改变恋爱的现状。</p><p>1. <span word="Withholding">Withholding</span></p><p>1、有所保留</p><p><span word="As">As</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="get">get</span> <span word="closer">closer</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="each">each</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span>, <span word="their">their</span> <span word="fears">fears</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="intimacy">intimacy</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="start">start</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="turn">turn</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="against">against</span> <span word="themselves">themselves</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="order">order</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="create">create</span> <span word="distance">distance</span>, <span word="they">they</span> <span word="start">start</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="withhold">withhold</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="qualities">qualities</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="partner">partner</span> <span word="valued">valued</span> <span word="most">most</span>.</p><p>恋爱中，随着关系愈加亲近，惧怕亲密会让人背离自己，为了增加距离感，对于伴侣尤为珍视的品质人们会开始有所克制。</p><p>2. <span word="Shutting">Shutting</span> <span word="down">down</span></p><p>2、黯然不语</p><p><span word="Our">Our</span> <span word="defenses">defenses</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="lead">lead</span> <span word="us">us</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="become">become</span> <span word="inward">inward</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="act">act</span> <span word="cold">cold</span>, <span word="finding">finding</span> <span word="millions">millions</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="excuses">excuses</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="interact">interact</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="love">love</span>. <span word="We">We</span> <span word="stop">stop</span> <span word="engaging">engaging</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="loving">loving</span> <span word="acts">acts</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="even">even</span> <span word="outright">outright</span> <span word="reject">reject</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="partner">partner</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="avoiding">avoiding</span> <span word="spending">spending</span> <span word="time">time</span> <span word="together">together</span>.</p><p>我们对人设防会导致自己变得封闭内向，表现得冷漠，找出数百种理由不和我们所爱的人交流。我们不再示爱，甚至拒绝我们的伴侣， 避免与之共度时光。</p><p>3. <span word="Becoming">Becoming</span> <span word="overly">overly</span> <span word="critical">critical</span></p>
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