六级阅读第17篇
<p> <span word="The">The</span> <span word="woman">woman</span> <span word="tried">tried</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="explain">explain</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="hadnt">hadnt</span> <span word="meant">meant</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="offend">offend</span> <span word="him">him</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="driver">driver</span> <span word="kept">kept</span> <span word="yelling">yelling</span>. <span word="She">She</span> <span word="finally">finally</span> <span word="realized">realized</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="upset">upset</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="reasonable">reasonable</span>. <span word="So">So</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="unexpected">unexpected</span>. <span word="You">You</span> <span word="know">know</span>, <span word="youre">youre</span> <span word="right">right</span>, <span word="she">she</span> <span word="told">told</span> <span word="him">him</span>. <span word="It">It</span> <span word="must">must</span> <span word="seem">seem</span> <span word="dumb">dumb</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="assume">assume</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="dont">dont</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="best">best</span> <span word="way">way</span> <span word="through">through</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="city">city</span>. <span word="Taken">Taken</span> <span word="aback">aback</span>, <span word="the">the</span> <span word="driver">driver</span> <span word="flashed">flashed</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="rider">rider</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="confused">confused</span> <span word="look">look</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="rear">rear</span>-<span word="view">view</span> <span word="mirror">mirror</span>, <span word="turned">turned</span> <span word="down">down</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="street">street</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="wanted">wanted</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="got">got</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="train">train</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="time">time</span>. <span word="He">He</span> <span word="didnt">didnt</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="another">another</span> <span word="word">word</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="rest">rest</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="ride">ride</span>, <span word="she">she</span> <span word="said">said</span>, <span word="until">until</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="got">got</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="paid">paid</span> <span word="him">him</span>. <span word="Then">Then</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="thanked">thanked</span> <span word="me">me</span>. <span word="When">When</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="encounter">encounter</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="cab">cab</span> <span word="driver">driver</span>, <span word="theres">theres</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="irresistible">irresistible</span> <span word="urge">urge</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="dig">dig</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="heels">heels</span>. <span word="This">This</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="lead">lead</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="prolonged">prolonged</span> <span word="arguments">arguments</span>, <span word="soured">soured</span> <span word="friendships">friendships</span>, <span word="lost">lost</span> <span word="career">career</span> <span word="opportunities">opportunities</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="broken">broken</span> <span word="marriages">marriages</span>. <span word="As">As</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="clinical">clinical</span> <span word="psychiatrist">psychiatrist</span>, <span word="Ive">Ive</span> <span word="discovered">discovered</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="simple">simple</span> <span word="but">but</span> <span word="extremely">extremely</span> <span word="unlikely">unlikely</span> <span word="principle">principle</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="prevent">prevent</span> <span word="virtually">virtually</span> <span word="any">any</span> <span word="conflict">conflict</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="difficult">difficult</span> <span word="situation">situation</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="becoming">becoming</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="recipe">recipe</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="disaster">disaster</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="key">key</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="put">put</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="persons">persons</span> <span word="shoes">shoes</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="look">look</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="truth">truth</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="saying">saying</span>. <span word="Find">Find</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="way">way</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="agree">agree</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="result">result</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="surprise">surprise</span> <span word="you">you</span>. <span word="Sulkers">Sulkers</span> <span word="Steves">Steves</span> 14-<span word="year">year</span>-<span word="old">old</span> <span word="son">son</span>, <span word="Adam">Adam</span>, <span word="had">had</span> <span word="been">been</span> <span word="irritable">irritable</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="several">several</span> <span word="days">days</span>. <span word="When">When</span> <span word="Steve">Steve</span> <span word="asked">asked</span> <span word="why">why</span>, <span word="Adam">Adam</span> <span word="snapped">snapped</span>, <span word="Nothings">Nothings</span> <span word="wrong">wrong</span>! <span word="Leave">Leave</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="alone">alone</span>! <span word="and">and</span> <span word="stalked">stalked</span> <span word="off">off</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="room">room</span>. <span word="We">We</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="this">this</span>. <span word="When">When</span> <span word="theres">theres</span> <span word="problem">problem</span>, <span word="they">they</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="sulk">sulk</span>（生闷气） <span word="or">or</span> <span word="act">act</span> <span word="angry">angry</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="refuse">refuse</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="talk">talk</span>. <span word="So">So</span> <span word="whats">whats</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="solution">solution</span>? <span word="First">First</span>, <span word="Steve">Steve</span> <span word="needs">needs</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="ask">ask</span> <span word="himself">himself</span> <span word="why">why</span> <span word="Adam">Adam</span> <span word="wont">wont</span> <span word="talk">talk</span>. <span word="Maybe">Maybe</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="boy">boy</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="worried">worried</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="happened">happened</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="school">school</span>. <span word="Or">Or</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="might">might</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="angry">angry</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="dad">dad</span> <span word="but">but</span> <span word="afraid">afraid</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="bring">bring</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="Steve">Steve</span> <span word="gets">gets</span> <span word="defensive">defensive</span> <span word="whenever">whenever</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="criticized">criticized</span>. <span word="Steve">Steve</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="pursue">pursue</span> <span word="these">these</span> <span word="possibilities">possibilities</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="next">next</span> <span word="time">time</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="talk">talk</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="saying">saying</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="noticed">noticed</span> <span word="youre">youre</span> <span word="upset">upset</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="would">would</span> <span word="help">help</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="get">get</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="problem">problem</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="open">open</span>. <span word="It">It</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="hard">hard</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="havent">havent</span> <span word="always">always</span> <span word="listened">listened</span> <span word="very">very</span> ? 58 ? <span word="well">well</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="so">so</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="bad">bad</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="love">love</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="dont">dont</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="let">let</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="down">down</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="Adam">Adam</span> <span word="still">still</span> <span word="refuses">refuses</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="talk">talk</span>, <span word="Steve">Steve</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="take">take</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="different">different</span> <span word="tack">tack</span>: <span word="m">m</span> <span word="concerned">concerned</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="whats">whats</span> <span word="going">going</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="you">you</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="talk">talk</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="over">over</span> <span word="later">later</span>, <span word="when">when</span> <span word="youre">youre</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="mood">mood</span>. <span word="This">This</span> <span word="strategy">strategy</span> <span word="allows">allows</span> <span word="both">both</span> <span word="sides">sides</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="win">win</span>: <span word="Steve">Steve</span> <span word="doesnt">doesnt</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="compromise">compromise</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="principle">principle</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="ultimately">ultimately</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="problem">problem</span> <span word="needs">needs</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="talked">talked</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="resolved">resolved</span>. <span word="Adam">Adam</span> <span word="saves">saves</span> <span word="face">face</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="allowed">allowed</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="withdraw">withdraw</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="while">while</span>. <span word="Noisy">Noisy</span> <span word="critics">critics</span>. <span word="Recently">Recently</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="counselling">counselling</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="businessman">businessman</span> <span word="named">named</span> <span word="Frank">Frank</span> <span word="who">who</span> <span word="lends">lends</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="overbearing">overbearing</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="hes">hes</span> <span word="upset">upset</span>. <span word="Frank">Frank</span> <span word="told">told</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="absent">absent</span>-<span word="minded">minded</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="money">money</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="shouldnt">shouldnt</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="pay">pay</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="each">each</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="sessions">sessions</span>. <span word="He">He</span> <span word="wanted">wanted</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="billed">billed</span> <span word="monthly">monthly</span>. <span word="I">I</span> <span word="felt">felt</span> <span word="annoyed">annoyed</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="seemed">seemed</span> <span word="Frank">Frank</span> <span word="always">always</span> <span word="had">had</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="way">way</span>. <span word="I">I</span> <span word="explained">explained</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="had">had</span> <span word="tried">tried</span> <span word="monthly">monthly</span> <span word="billing">billing</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="hadnt">hadnt</span> <span word="worked">worked</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="some">some</span> <span word="patients">patients</span> <span word="didnt">didnt</span> <span word="pay">pay</span>. <span word="Frank">Frank</span> <span word="argued">argued</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="had">had</span> <span word="impeccable">impeccable</span> <span word="credit">credit</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="knew">knew</span> <span word="much">much</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="credit">credit</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="billing">billing</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="did">did</span>. <span word="Suddenly">Suddenly</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="realized">realized</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="missing">missing</span> <span word="Franks">Franks</span> <span word="point">point</span>. <span word="You">You</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="right">right</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="said">said</span>.<span word="Im">Im</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="defensive">defensive</span>. <span word="We">We</span> <span word="should">should</span> <span word="focus">focus</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="problems">problems</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="life">life</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="worry">worry</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="much">much</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="money">money</span>. <span word="Frank">Frank</span> <span word="immediately">immediately</span> <span word="softened">softened</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="began">began</span> <span word="talking">talking</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="really">really</span> <span word="bothering">bothering</span> <span word="him">him</span>, <span word="which">which</span> <span word="were">were</span> <span word="some">some</span> <span word="personal">personal</span> <span word="problems">problems</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="next">next</span> <span word="time">time</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="met">met</span>, <span word="he">he</span> <span word="handed">handed</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="check">check</span> <span word="for">for</span> 20 <span word="sessions">sessions</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="advance">advance</span>! <span word="There">There</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="times">times</span>, <span word="of">of</span> <span word="course">course</span>, <span word="when">when</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="unreasonably">unreasonably</span> <span word="abusive">abusive</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="need">need</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="walk">walk</span> <span word="away">away</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="situation">situation</span>. <span word="But">But</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="problem">problem</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="solved">solved</span>, <span word="its">its</span> <span word="important">important</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="allow">allow</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="keep">keep</span> <span word="some">some</span> <span word="self">self</span>-<span word="esteem">esteem</span>. <span word="Theres">Theres</span> <span word="nearly">nearly</span> <span word="always">always</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="grain">grain</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="truth">truth</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="persons">persons</span> <span word="point">point</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="view">view</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="acknowledge">acknowledge</span> <span word="this">this</span>, <span word="he">he</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="less">less</span> <span word="defensive">defensive</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="likely">likely</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="listen">listen</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="you">you</span>. <span word="Complainers">Complainers</span>. <span word="Brad">Brad</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="a">a</span> 32-<span word="year">year</span>-<span word="old">old</span> <span word="Detroit">Detroit</span> <span word="chiropractor">chiropractor</span> <span word="who">who</span> <span word="recently">recently</span> <span word="described">described</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="frustration">frustration</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="patient">patient</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="his">his</span>: <span word="I">I</span> <span word="ask">ask</span> <span word="Mr">Mr</span>. <span word="Barry">Barry</span>, <span word="How">How</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="doing">doing</span>? <span word="and">and</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="dumps">dumps</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="whole">whole</span> <span word="life">life</span> <span word="story">story</span>-<span word="his">his</span> <span word="family">family</span> <span word="problems">problems</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="financial">financial</span> <span word="difficulties">difficulties</span>. <span word="I">I</span> <span word="give">give</span> <span word="him">him</span> <span word="advice">advice</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="ignores">ignores</span> <span word="everything">everything</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="tell">tell</span> <span word="him">him</span>. <span word="Brad">Brad</span> <span word="needs">needs</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="recognize">recognize</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="habitual">habitual</span> <span word="complainers">complainers</span> <span word="usually">usually</span> <span word="dont">dont</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="advice">advice</span>. <span word="They">They</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="listen">listen</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="understand">understand</span>. <span word="So">So</span> <span word="Brad">Brad</span> <span word="might">might</span> <span word="simply">simply</span> <span word="say">say</span> : <span word="sounds">sounds</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="rough">rough</span> <span word="week">week</span>, <span word="Its">Its</span> <span word="no">no</span> <span word="fun">fun</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="unpaid">unpaid</span> <span word="bills">bills</span>, <span word="people">people</span> <span word="nagging">nagging</span> <span word="you">you</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="pain">pain</span> <span word="besides">besides</span>.<span word="The">The</span> <span word="complainer">complainer</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="usually">usually</span> <span word="run">run</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="gas">gas</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="stop">stop</span> <span word="complaining">complaining</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="secret">secret</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="give">give</span> <span word="advice">advice</span>. <span word="Just">Just</span> <span word="agreeing">agreeing</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="validating">validating</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="persons">persons</span> <span word="point">point</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="view">view</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="make">make</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="better">better</span>. <span word="Demanding">Demanding</span> <span word="friends">friends</span>. <span word="Difficult">Difficult</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="arent">arent</span> <span word="always">always</span> -, <span word="angry">angry</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="complaining">complaining</span>. <span word="Sometimes">Sometimes</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="difficult">difficult</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="demands">demands</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="place">place</span> <span word="upon">upon</span> <span word="us">us</span>. <span word="Maybe">Maybe</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="friend">friend</span> <span word="puts">puts</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="spot">spot</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="request">request</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="run">run</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="errand">errand</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="him">him</span> <span word="while">while</span> <span word="hes">hes</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="town">town</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="crowded">crowded</span> <span word="schedule">schedule</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="agree">agree</span> <span word="but">but</span> <span word="end">end</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="angry">angry</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="resentful">resentful</span>. <span word="Or">Or</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="no">no</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="wrong">wrong</span> <span word="way">way</span>, <span word="your">your</span> <span word="friend">friend</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="unhappy">unhappy</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="problem">problem</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="that">that</span>, <span word="caught">caught</span> <span word="off">off</span> <span word="guard">guard</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="dont">dont</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="how">how</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="deal">deal</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="situation">situation</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="way">way</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="avoids">avoids</span> <span word="bad">bad</span> <span word="feelings">feelings</span>. <span word="One">One</span> <span word="method">method</span> <span word="Ive">Ive</span> <span word="found">found</span> <span word="helpful">helpful</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="punting">punting</span>. <span word="Youre">Youre</span> <span word="punting">punting</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="tell">tell</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="need">need</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="request">request</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="youll">youll</span> <span word="get">get</span> <span word="back">back</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="it">it</span>. <span word="Say">Say</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="colleague">colleague</span> <span word="calls">calls</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="pressures">pressures</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="give">give</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="lecture">lecture</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="university">university</span>.<span word="Ive">Ive</span> <span word="learned">learned</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span>,<span word="m">m</span> <span word="flattered">flattered</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="thought">thought</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="me">me</span>.<span word="Let">Let</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="check">check</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="schedule">schedule</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="Ill">Ill</span> <span word="call">call</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="back">back</span>. <span word="This">This</span> <span word="gives">gives</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="time">time</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="deal">deal</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="any">any</span> <span word="feelings">feelings</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="guilt">guilt</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="no">no</span>. <span word="Suppose">Suppose</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="decide">decide</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="better">better</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="decline">decline</span>; <span word="punting">punting</span> <span word="allow">allow</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="plan">plan</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="call">call</span> <span word="back">back</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="appreciate">appreciate</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="asked">asked</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="might">might</span> <span word="indicate">indicate</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="find">find</span> <span word="Im">Im</span> <span word="over">over</span>-<span word="committed">committed</span> <span word="right">right</span> <span word="now">now</span>. <span word="However">However</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="hope">hope</span> <span word="youll">youll</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="future">future</span>. <span word="Responding">Responding</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="difficult">difficult</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="patience">patience</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="empathy">empathy</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="tough">tough</span>, <span word="especially">especially</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="upset">upset</span>. <span word="But">But</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="moment">moment</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="give">give</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="need">need</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="control">control</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="right">right</span>, <span word="the">the</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="begin">begin</span> <span word="relaxing">relaxing</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="start">start</span> <span word="listening">listening</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="you">you</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="Greek">Greek</span> <span word="philosopher">philosopher</span> <span word="Epictetus">Epictetus</span> <span word="understood">understood</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="said">said</span> <span word="nearly">nearly</span> 2, 000 <span word="years">years</span> <span word="ago">ago</span>, <span word="If">If</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="criticizes">criticizes</span> <span word="you">you</span>, <span word="agree">agree</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="once">once</span>. <span word="Mention">Mention</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="only">only</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="knew">knew</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="well">well</span>, <span word="there">there</span> <span word="would">would</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="criticize">criticize</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="that">that</span> ! <span word="Real">Real</span> <span word="communication">communication</span> <span word="results">results</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="spirit">spirit</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="respect">respect</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="person">person</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="benefits">benefits</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="amazing">amazing</span>.</p>
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