求求你表扬我：戒掉爱听表扬的瘾
<p><span word="How">How</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="you">you</span>‘<span word="re">re</span> <span word="doing">doing</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="good">good</span> <span word="job">job</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="work">work</span>？ <span word="Do">Do</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="rely">rely</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="praise">praise</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="constant">constant</span> <span word="feedback">feedback</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="manager">manager</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="barometer">barometer</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="performance">performance</span>？</p><p>你怎么知道自己工作做得好不好？你是不是依赖老板的表扬和频繁的反馈来衡量自己的工作表现？</p><p><span word="If">If</span> <span word="so">so</span>， <span word="you">you</span> <span word="might">might</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="boss">boss</span>’ <span word="pet">pet</span> <span word="peeves">peeves</span>. <span word="Supervisors">Supervisors</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="already">already</span> <span word="stretched">stretched</span> <span word="thin">thin</span>， <span word="often">often</span> <span word="working">working</span> <span word="two">two</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="three">three</span> <span word="people">people</span>‘<span word="s">s</span> <span word="jobs">jobs</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="few">few</span> <span word="years">years</span> <span word="ago">ago</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="were">were</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="doing">doing</span> <span word="one">one</span>.</p><p>如果真是这样，你可能就成了老板的烦心事了。管理者非常忙，现在的工作量常常是过去两、三个人的量。</p><p>“<span word="It">It</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="exhausting">exhausting</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="boss">boss</span>，” <span word="says">says</span> <span word="Peggy">Peggy</span> <span word="Klaus">Klaus</span>， <span word="an">an</span> <span word="executive">executive</span> <span word="coach">coach</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="author">author</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="The">The</span> <span word="Hard">Hard</span> <span word="Truth">Truth</span> <span word="About">About</span> <span word="Soft">Soft</span> <span word="Skills">Skills</span>. “<span word="They">They</span> <span word="don">don</span>‘<span word="t">t</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="time">time</span> ... <span word="to">to</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="constantly">constantly</span> <span word="reassure">reassure</span> <span word="you">you</span>.”</p><p>《软技能的硬道理》一书作者兼高管教练佩吉-克劳斯说：“这种事让老板非常劳神，他们没时间......不断地来安慰你。”</p><p><span word="Millennial">Millennial</span> <span word="generation">generation</span> <span word="workers">workers</span>， <span word="those">those</span> <span word="born">born</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="last">last</span> <span word="two">two</span> <span word="decades">decades</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="last">last</span> <span word="millennium">millennium</span>， <span word="are">are</span> <span word="notorious">notorious</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="having">having</span> <span word="been">been</span> <span word="raised">raised</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="praise">praise</span>-<span word="heavy">heavy</span> <span word="environment">environment</span> <span word="where">where</span> <span word="every">every</span> <span word="soccer">soccer</span> <span word="player">player</span> <span word="gets">gets</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="medal">medal</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="every">every</span> <span word="child">child</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="special">special</span>. <span word="Indeed">Indeed</span>， <span word="a">a</span> 2010 <span word="research">research</span> <span word="paper">paper</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="psychology">psychology</span> <span word="professors">professors</span> <span word="Jean">Jean</span> <span word="M">M</span>. <span word="Twenge">Twenge</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="Joshua">Joshua</span> <span word="D">D</span>. <span word="Foster">Foster</span> <span word="found">found</span> <span word="that">that</span> 30% <span word="of">of</span> <span word="today">today</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="college">college</span> <span word="students">students</span> <span word="scored">scored</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="narcissistic">narcissistic</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="Narcissistic">Narcissistic</span> <span word="Personality">Personality</span> <span word="Inventory">Inventory</span> <span word="vs">vs</span>. <span word="just">just</span> 19% <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="early">early</span> 1980<span word="s">s</span>.</p><p>80后、90后员工（小编注：英语中的千禧世代指的是1982-2001年之间出生的人，又称为<span word="Y">Y</span>世代；2001年之后出生的叫做<span word="Z">Z</span>世代，也叫网络世代）是在表扬声中长大的，这些年轻人每个人都会得奖，每个孩子都与众不同。事实上，心理学教授简-特温格和约书亚-福斯特在2010年进行的一项研究发现，当今30%的大学生在自恋人格表中被归为自恋者，远高于上世纪80年代中期的比例。</p>
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