说话是门艺术: 千万不要对别人说的6句话
<p><span word="You">You</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="said">said</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="wrong">wrong</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="looking">looking</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="red">red</span> <span word="angry">angry</span> <span word="face">face</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="issue">issue</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="you">you</span>’<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="said">said</span>, <span word="it">it</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="they">they</span>’<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="heard">heard</span>.</p><p>你说错话了，对方正怒火中烧的看着你，往往这类问题的关键不是在于你说了什么，而是他们听到的东西。</p><p><span word="There">There</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="some">some</span> <span word="sentences">sentences</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="act">act</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="deadly">deadly</span> <span word="silent">silent</span> <span word="ninjas">ninjas</span>, <span word="killing">killing</span> <span word="self">self</span>-<span word="confidence">confidence</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="antagonizing">antagonizing</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="friends">friends</span>, <span word="family">family</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="colleagues">colleagues</span>—<span word="the">the</span> <span word="worst">worst</span> <span word="thing">thing</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="might">might</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="even">even</span> <span word="realize">realize</span> <span word="it">it</span>.</p><p>下面这几句话可以看成是致命的沉默忍者，抹杀自信，敌对朋友，家人和同事——最糟糕的的就是你甚至都意识不到。</p><p><span word="Here">Here</span> <span word="are">are</span> 6 <span word="things">things</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="should">should</span> <span word="never">never</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="someone">someone</span>:</p><p>下面这六句话你千万不要对别人说：</p><p>1. “<span word="I">I</span> <span word="don">don</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="care">care</span>”</p><p>“我无所谓”</p><p><span word="What">What</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="hear">hear</span>: “<span word="Leave">Leave</span> <span word="me">me</span> <span word="alone">alone</span>. <span word="I">I</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="better">better</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="listen">listen</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="you">you</span>.”</p><p>他们听到的是：“别管我，我懒得听你们说，我有更好的事情去做。”</p><p><span word="Explain">Explain</span> <span word="why">why</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="would">would</span> <span word="love">love</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="hear">hear</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="subject">subject</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="why">why</span> “<span word="right">right</span> <span word="now">now</span>” <span word="is">is</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="best">best</span> <span word="time">time</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="you">you</span>. <span word="Everybody">Everybody</span> <span word="matters">matters</span>. <span word="Not">Not</span> <span word="caring">caring</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="denying">denying</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="existence">existence</span>: <span word="If">If</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="matter">matter</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="you">you</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="matter">matter</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="them">them</span>.</p><p>解释一下你对这些其实很感兴趣，只是现在不是最好的时机去倾听。每个人都很重要。不关心别人就是忽视他们的存在感，如果别人在意你，你也需要在意他们。</p>
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