表达不同意见而不是quot;好斗quot;
<p>担心自己表示不同意见会被别人认为是好斗？其实是你担心过头了。只要你是礼貌的方式，就不必要担心这个。要记住，人们是以你一贯的处事之道来解读你的，而不是仅凭一次不同意见。</p><p>3: <span word="Because">Because</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="am">am</span> <span word="nervous">nervous</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="appearing">appearing</span> <span word="aggressive">aggressive</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="passive">passive</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="interactions">interactions</span>.</p><p>因为我担心自己会表现出“好斗”，所以在交往中，我可能会过于被动</p><p><span word="Addresses">Addresses</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="fear">fear</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="seen">seen</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="aggressive">aggressive</span></p><p>如何克服对被视作“好斗”的恐惧</p><p><span word="In">In</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="research">research</span> <span word="I">I</span>’<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="found">found</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="many">many</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="who">who</span> <span word="lack">lack</span> <span word="assertiveness">assertiveness</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="afraid">afraid</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="seen">seen</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="aggressive">aggressive</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="arrogant">arrogant</span>. <span word="They">They</span> <span word="overcompensate">overcompensate</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="end">end</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="passive">passive</span> <span word="end">end</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="spectrum">spectrum</span>. <span word="We">We</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="assertive">assertive</span>, <span word="which">which</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="middle">middle</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="very">very</span> <span word="different">different</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="aggressive">aggressive</span>. 在我的研究中，我发现许多缺乏主张力的人都是因为害怕被人们认为“好斗”或“高傲”。为了避免让自己表现得如此，结果他们走向了另一个极端。我们想让你具有主张力，这是中性的，和“好斗”非常地不同。</p><p><span word="Remember">Remember</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="majority">majority</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="impact">impact</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="communication">communication</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="how">how</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="say">say</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="project">project</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="calm">calm</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="friendly">friendly</span> <span word="demeanor">demeanor</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="unlikely">unlikely</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="seen">seen</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="aggressive">aggressive</span>. <span word="Remember">Remember</span> <span word="also">also</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="interpret">interpret</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="relation">relation</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="image">image</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="already">already</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="you">you</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="typically">typically</span> <span word="friendly">friendly</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="thoughtful">thoughtful</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="interpret">interpret</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="behaviors">behaviors</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="line">line</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="view">view</span>. 记住沟通的主要影响力在于说话方式而不是内容。如果你的举止镇定、友好，那么就不可能被视为“好斗”。 还要记住，人们是通过他们对你已有的形象来解读你。如果你通常都是一个友好、处事周道的人，那么人们会用和这一观念一致的方式来解释你的行为。</p>
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