你懂得赞扬别人吗（2）
<p>能恰当地赞美别人是一件佳事，可是该怎样赞扬别人可不是人人都会的。下面这些建议你可需要认真考量哦！</p><p>3. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="effusiveness">effusiveness</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="time">time</span> <span word="spent">spent</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="giving">giving</span> <span word="praise">praise</span> <span word="should">should</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="commensurate">commensurate</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="difficulty">difficulty</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="time">time</span>-<span word="intensiveness">intensiveness</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="task">task</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="task">task</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="quick">quick</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="easy">easy</span>, <span word="a">a</span> <span word="hasty">hasty</span> “<span word="Looks">Looks</span> <span word="great">great</span>!” <span word="will">will</span> <span word="do">do</span>; <span word="if">if</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="task">task</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="protracted">protracted</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="difficult">difficult</span>, <span word="the">the</span> <span word="praise">praise</span> <span word="should">should</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="lengthy">lengthy</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="descriptive">descriptive</span>. <span word="Also">Also</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="might">might</span> <span word="bring">bring</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="praise">praise</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="once">once</span>.</p><p>表扬用的时间和言语应该和该任务的困难程度和时间强度一致。 如果一项任务即快又容易，那么匆忙一声“看起来不错！”就行了；如果一项任务冗长而困难，那么表扬的话应该更长、更具体。同样，你可能要多次表扬。</p><p>4. <span word="Remember">Remember</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="negativity">negativity</span> <span word="bias">bias</span>. <span word="The">The</span> “<span word="negativity">negativity</span> <span word="bias">bias</span>” <span word="is">is</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="well">well</span>-<span word="recognized">recognized</span> <span word="psychological">psychological</span> <span word="phenomenon">phenomenon</span>: <span word="people">people</span> <span word="react">react</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="bad">bad</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="strongly">strongly</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="persistently">persistently</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="comparable">comparable</span> <span word="good">good</span>. <span word="For">For</span> <span word="example">example</span>, <span word="within">within</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span>, <span word="it">it</span> <span word="takes">takes</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="least">least</span> <span word="five">five</span> <span word="good">good</span> <span word="acts">acts</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="repair">repair</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="damage">damage</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="critical">critical</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="destructive">destructive</span> <span word="act">act</span>. <span word="So">So</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="praise">praise</span> <span word="someone">someone</span>, <span word="remember">remember</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="critical">critical</span> <span word="comment">comment</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="wipe">wipe</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="several">several</span> <span word="positive">positive</span> <span word="comments">comments</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="far">far</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="memorable">memorable</span>. <span word="To">To</span> <span word="stay">stay</span> <span word="silent">silent</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="then">then</span> <span word="remark">remark</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="like">like</span>, “<span word="It">It</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="bad">bad</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="door">door</span> <span word="couldn">couldn</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="fixed">fixed</span>,” <span word="will">will</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="perceived">perceived</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="highly">highly</span> <span word="critical">critical</span>。</p><p>记住“消极偏见”。“消极偏见”是一种为人熟知的心理现象：人们对坏话的反应比对好话更强烈、更持久。例如在婚姻中，至少要五次善举才能修复一次批评或破坏性的行为给人带来的创伤。所以，如果你想表扬某人，记着一句批评的话会抵消几句肯定的评价，而且会更让人记忆深刻。沉默许久然后说一句：“真糟糕，门修不好了”将是一句高度批评的话。</p>
页:
[1]