宽恕的艺术 Forgiveness
<p><span word="To">To</span> <span word="forgive">forgive</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="divine">divine</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="no">no</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="ever">ever</span> <span word="said">said</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="easy">easy</span>. <span word="When">When</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="has">has</span> <span word="deeply">deeply</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="you">you</span>, <span word="it">it</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="extremely">extremely</span> <span word="difficult">difficult</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="let">let</span> <span word="go">go</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="grudge">grudge</span>. <span word="But">But</span> <span word="forgiveness">forgiveness</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="possible">possible</span> -- <span word="and">and</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="surprisingly">surprisingly</span> <span word="beneficial">beneficial</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="physical">physical</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="mental">mental</span> <span word="health">health</span>.</p><p>"<span word="People">People</span> <span word="who">who</span> <span word="forgive">forgive</span> <span word="show">show</span> <span word="less">less</span> <span word="depression">depression</span>, <span word="anger">anger</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="stress">stress</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="hopefulness">hopefulness</span>," <span word="says">says</span> <span word="Frederic">Frederic</span>, <span word="Ph">Ph</span>.<span word="D">D</span>., <span word="author">author</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="Forgive">Forgive</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="Good">Good</span>. "<span word="So">So</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="help">help</span> <span word="save">save</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="wear">wear</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="tear">tear</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="organs">organs</span>, <span word="reduce">reduce</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="wearing">wearing</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="immune">immune</span> <span word="system">system</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="allow">allow</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="vital">vital</span>."</p><p><span word="So">So</span> <span word="how">how</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="start">start</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="healing">healing</span>? <span word="Try">Try</span> <span word="following">following</span> <span word="these">these</span> <span word="steps">steps</span>:</p><p><span word="Calm">Calm</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span>. <span word="To">To</span> <span word="defuse">defuse</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="anger">anger</span>, <span word="try">try</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="simple">simple</span> <span word="stress">stress</span>-<span word="management">management</span> <span word="technique">technique</span>. "<span word="Take">Take</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="couple">couple</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="breaths">breaths</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="gives">gives</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="pleasure">pleasure</span>: <span word="a">a</span> <span word="beautiful">beautiful</span> <span word="scene">scene</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="nature">nature</span>, <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="love">love</span>," <span word="Frederic">Frederic</span> <span word="says">says</span>.</p><p><span word="Don">Don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="wait">wait</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="apology">apology</span>. "<span word="Many">Many</span> <span word="times">times</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="who">who</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="has">has</span> <span word="no">no</span> <span word="intention">intention</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="apologizing">apologizing</span>," <span word="Frederic">Frederic</span> <span word="says">says</span>. "<span word="They">They</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="wanted">wanted</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="don">don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="see">see</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="same">same</span> <span word="way">way</span>. <span word="So">So</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="wait">wait</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="apologize">apologize</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="could">could</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="waiting">waiting</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="awfully">awfully</span> <span word="long">long</span> <span word="time">time</span>." <span word="Keep">Keep</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="mind">mind</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="forgiveness">forgiveness</span> <span word="does">does</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="necessarily">necessarily</span> <span word="mean">mean</span> <span word="reconciliation">reconciliation</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="who">who</span> <span word="upset">upset</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="condoning">condoning</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="action">action</span>.</p><p><span word="Take">Take</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="control">control</span> <span word="away">away</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="offender">offender</span>. <span word="Mentally">Mentally</span> <span word="replaying">replaying</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="gives">gives</span> <span word="power">power</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="who">who</span> <span word="caused">caused</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="pain">pain</span>. "<span word="Instead">Instead</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="focusing">focusing</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="wounded">wounded</span> <span word="feelings">feelings</span>, <span word="learn">learn</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="look">look</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="love">love</span>, <span word="beauty">beauty</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="kindness">kindness</span> <span word="around">around</span> <span word="you">you</span>," <span word="Frederic">Frederic</span> <span word="says">says</span>.</p>
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